spousal advice

constantly being in the church environment can be very pressurizing for a single person. people get attached, get engaged, get married at a rate that alarms me. and many a time, people ask me if i have anyone in mind, when i intend to get attached etc etc.

my answer is always, i'm enjoying my singlehood. i'm 23, not 32. being single is not inappropriate or out of the ordinary. would it be nice to be attached? well of course! but i am in no hurry and i am certainly not going to get attached for the sake of getting attached. i am comforted as i look at my jc friends. there are those who are happily attached, but others like me are happily single. that's the demographic i would consider normal. hahaha.

http://www.ft.com/cms/s/0/9563a05c-b763-11de-9812-00144feab49a.html?nclick_check=1

well the ft ran an article (see above) on spousal advice and how important your partner's advice is. your spouse is probably the only person who can really be honest with you. and so your spouse's advice is crucial. which means, you need a spouse who can give you sound advice.

one's spouse can make or break one's destiny. what kind of person am i looking for? someone driven, someone capable, someone who is intelligent and shrewd, someone who can support me through this life. my mum (being a homemaker) usually interjects at this point to say, "someone not like your mum right?". on the contrary, that simply isn't true. my mum supported my dad through some of the toughest years of building a business (being the accountant for his business), while building the house herself. in quintessence, someone who can move in the same direction as me in this life and create an impact together.

being single is good. it's very enjoyable. commitment-free or as some might prefer, fancy-free...hahaha. can spend time with friends, do fun and crazy stuff. but it does get harder as the people around you increasingly become attached or horrors, married!! i will settle down eventually. but for now, that lady eludes me. i'm still young and am not actively on the lookout. so please people, don't keep bugging me to get attached. i am so fancy-free! hahaha.